Self Care During the COVID-19 Pandemic: Social and Connection Needs
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The COVID-19 pandemic has changed the way we communicate and connect with others. Physical distancing during quarantine or sheltering in place has resulted in our reliance on virtual platforms to help us “see” each other and connect. Humans are incredibly creative/resourceful and are experimenting with different strategies to connect in meaningful ways. Some examples of creative ways we’ve connected while adhering to the government’s guidelines for physical distancing have included: virtual group card games, virtual happy hour, people cooking together remotely, car parade celebrations, and so on. All of the technology we have has enabled us to connect and be there for one another during such a challenging time.
Social support has never been more important than it is right now. As a nurse, I routinely ask about social support needs to help clients heal their relationships with food and body. Social support has four main attributes:
Emotional support: intimate interaction with people who you feel like, admire, respect, and love you. Examples of emotional support from support persons includes: listening without judgment, being present, anticipating your needs, allowing for space, expressing love & respect, and expressing genuine concern for your well-being.
Instrumental support: tangible aid, goods, and services (material aid, physical assistance). Examples include: financial assistance to meet basic needs, therapy, nutritional therapy, coaching, groceries, transportation, child care, and meal preparation.
Informational support: knowledge provided during a time of stress to assist with problem-solving (e.g., formal support from a professional, guidance, feedback). Examples include: meal/food plans, stress management strategies, medical care, relapse prevention plans, self-care plans, books, podcasts, webinars, etc.
Appraisal support: affirmation given by verbal statements or by actions. Examples include: validation of your feelings, positive feedback, being present, role modeling self-care behaviors, and support groups.
Social support involves reciprocal relationships, meaning that support goes both ways. Individuals in your social network give and receive care and protection.
In light of the COVID-19 pandemic here are some questions to ask yourself to make sure that you’re getting your social/connection needs met:
Who do I need support from (who is in your social network)?
What types of support do I need?
What are my specific needs?
What support is needed from me?
How will I ask for the support I need?
How will I be able to give and receive support while maintaining physical distancing?
I encourage you to give these questions some thought. We all need help and support from time to time. Don’t be afraid to reach out for support or connect with friends/loved ones today!